I’d like to think that second chances exist, or at least, from my side of the story.
Not sure what prompted me to speak about this topic but recently I’ve met up with a few friends and some nostalgic feelings came back. Not entirely sure what provoked these and if these are feelings of rekindling or just sweet memories of the past rushing back to fill me with weird thoughts. But I’ve always wondered, do second chances really exist? I mean, of course they do but what I mean is that if two people are friends now, but they used to have feelings for each other, and now they meet once more with mutual emotions, are those feelings ever strong enough to rekindle fire? If not, what is keeping the distance apart? Is it the doubt that history will repeat itself once more, or is it the need and desire to move on and not dwell on the past?
Personally, I’d love to give second chances, but only to the ones that deserve them. I may be harsh when I say this but some people should never deserve a second chance, unlike others. If feelings were never completely eliminated and if both sides are mutually willing to give it a try, I’d say why not? Perhaps in the past, a silly minuscule mistake or bad timing could have interfered with decisions but maybe now is the right time, or maybe now the conditions are better. Maybe the future bringing certain people back together is nature’s way of giving people another chance to live it up and not fail the second time. This doesn’t mean that such emotions at the moment will trigger me to do inexplicable things, it’s far too unrealistic for that. It just means that I have hope sometimes for relationships that do not work out the first time around, but only for certain situations.
This isn’t entirely about relationships either, it could be able broken friendships. Friendships that were wrecked due to some unforeseen circumstances or just mistreatment but I believe that the foundation is still there, it just needs to grow and let trust be built again from there, if not ruined entirely. I think that maybe it might not work now or didn’t work out in the past but sometime in the future, if it does happen, destiny will bring people together once more and second chances can be accepted. And it is then, if both sides are willing, that a second chance can be treasured into a precious work of nature’s art.
Ask yourself this:
What would you do? I honestly would not know what to do, I would freeze and probably fail for another time. But if you really wanted to seize the situation, I’d say go for it, you can only live for so long before a third chance comes around. But speaking from a more realistic point of view, there must have been something from the beginning that caused the separation and of course, history could repeat itself once more if both sides have not wholly fixed the issue themselves. It may sometimes even be worse off the second time. Maybe it’s the hopeless romantic in me speaking or maybe I’ve watched too many romantic movies but let’s all be honest here, I would think too much about the situation and before I know it, it’ll be gone again. heh.
Anyways, call me a hopeless romantic but here’s one of my favourite quotations from “Letters to Juliet”:
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reading your blogs is an exceptionally captivating experience as I can visualize you gradually compassing a sense of direction in your life.
Here is a “cliche” quote that I am gifting to you at this crucial stage of your life:
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”
-Steve Jobs at Stanford University, June 12, 2005.
So go for it! Do the exchange.